Posted on April 17 2016
Been a busy week at TSID! I was lucky enough to be part of the Mothers Day promotion photo shoot with my gorgeous mum and nana. We had an absolute ball wearing the clothes. Our crazy-talented photographer Kristin Walker from Honey Images worked her magic amongst the majestic bush at my parents home in Cottlesbridge. We got to see some of the shots as they were taken. My first response was YUCK. OMG do I seriously look like that? No way, take another one. The look on Kristin's face was incredulous! Why she said!? They are beautiful!
It really got me thinking. I am a fairly confident person. Of course I have insecurities - who doesn't? But why do we find it so hard to take compliments? Why is it so hard to hear something nice about yourself and actually believe it?
Have stereotypes of beauty become so fixed that we think that unless we look a certain way we don't look beautiful? I am 5ft 5. I am 75kg. I have 3 kids. A lovely soft belly where my abs used to be. I have stretch marks and 'bingo wings'. My jawline is considerably less angular and my eyes show evidence of tears and laughter. My ankles seem to have grown in circumference and my hips pop over my jeans. My boobs are longer than they are round. My arms have lifted more Coke cans than Dumbbells.
But am I ugly? Am I disgusting? Am I so repulsive that I should hide myself away? My response not that long ago would have been yes. Nobody wants to see that. My days of booty shorts and midriff tops are over. My response now? Hell no! I'm going to rock this. I'm going to be 38 this year. I'm happy, busy, motivated and have access to clothes that can make me FEEL beautiful no matter my size. I can wear trackies and hoodies or stilettos and skirts, and I can smile. I am a role model to my daughters. I want them to know that perfection doesn't exist. Self confidence, self worth and self belief DOES. Insecurity is not size specific. It does not discriminate. A size 8 can wish for curves and a size 22 can wish for a thigh gap. If we want to change ourselves, we need to make sure we are doing it for the right reason.
Next time someone pays you a compliment, instead of saying, 'oh no, I look awful, or I'm so fat/old/wrinkly' - say THANK YOU! OWN THAT SHIT! Appreciate that someone is taking the time to let you know that they think you are looking the goods. Because unless they are Regina George from Mean Girls - they mean it